How to find your tribe & create a community like a pro

Tribe ~ How to Build Healthy Relationships

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Last Updated: May 2022

In this article:
Find Your Tribe

In this article we look at why it's important to cultivate community around you and how the science is actually showing that this can also be a major indicator for overall personal and professional growth & happiness. I provide you with:

• Resources and videos on how you can find, create and/or strengthen your tribe.
• How you can have more than one tribe and in different life categories & why you should.
• How to add value and create shifts in your life by finding your people. 

​A tribe is essentially a group of like-minded people that form a community to spend time together, support each other, share ideas, and are connected on the basis of similar ideals. The importance of creating and surrounding yourself with a tribe cannot be understated. As part of designing a life that you love, you need to surround yourself with people that you can count on that foster each others personal development, that have a deep connection, and act as a support system for each other. 
 
Now I can hear some of you saying, well that's all well and good but I don't have a tribe, or, I have a tribe but I want to connect on a deeper level.  I completely understand this, as an expat myself who has moved across the world to a non-English speaking country with no friends or network I can tell you I relate.  I have worked hard over the past few years to develop my tribes (yes, I have more than one, but more on that later) in order to grow the connection. Here are a few tips to start a tribe if you don't have one:

• Go On-line.
  • We are so lucky to live in this ever more connected world where you can go online and look for people that have similar interests and beliefs. You can reach out to them online and try to make a connection.
• Join.
  • Take a fitness class, go to a conference on a topic you are passionate about, take a course on a subject your interested in, join a meet-up community, whatever it is that you have an interest in, and make it your intention to connect with at least one or two people at the event.  Most of my "friend" tribe was developed through taking a beach volleyball course together. 
• Put yourself out there.
  • Don't be afraid of rejection.  I know it is super hard to put yourself out there but the worst that can happen is that they say no or not respond at all and the best that could happen is that you become amazing lifelong friends, so I'd say it's worth the gamble.  Just make clear what your intentions are and make it easy for them to have an out so there is not too much of a commitment request right from the beginning.  And remember, try, try again if at first you don't succeed your people are out there!

 
The following videos by Lori Harder express the above points and dives deeper into the subject with more tips for you to use when you are either first developing a tribe or trying to build a deeper more meaningful connection with your current tribe.  Trust me, you will want to take it from her as she literally wrote the (bestselling ?) book on it.  Which you can get here ~ A Tribe Called Bliss ~ as an additional tool in your arsenal on the tribe building journey.  With her tribe in tow, she has become a fitness expert (& cover model), life coach, event coordinator and successful multiple time entrepreneur (& millionaire) so if you want to learn how to create a tribe to support you in becoming the best version of yourself, she is the one to guide you on your journey. 

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​For those of you on the go, check out Lori's podcast episode that she did with her equally uber successful husband where they discuss up-leveling your tribe, and the importance of doing this to support accomplishing your goals.
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As I mentioned,  it is important to also have more than one tribe.  For instance, I have a core "friends tribe" where we like to do similar things together, like sports, cooking and hanging out but I also have a work tribe for adding value to my industry, creating networks and growing my career, of course I have the "Be Sharp" tribe to focus on a well-rounded approach to creating a building a life that I love and my "family tribe". And as you would have heard from Lori, having more than one tribe is important as we are multi-faceted individuals with many different areas of life as well as different needs.  So while having a strong friends group or tribe is important it is just as important in business and/or career to find your tribe.
 
There are a group of people that are already out there that want what you are offering, or are in the same industry as you and want to grow and be successful.  Find these people and add value to them and see how together you can create momentum and the shifts that you want to see in your business or career, together.  Focus on that niche of people, the ones who belief what you believe, and you can create a real change.  To further illustrate this point for you check out the Ted Talk by Seth Godin.  It's short and funny and I don't know another human who is as articulate as Mr. Godin on this subject and the importance of tribe to our futures.

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Since we are on the topic of tribe, that is precisely what it is I am working to create with Be Sharp.  I want to make a space for like-minded women who are committed to their self development, who want to grow, connect, and have the belief, a mindset, that they can create and design a love that they actually love!  This is why it is important to me to share the knowledge I have collected and the resources and tools with fellow women.  So that we can all be surrounded by the positive messages and practical insights on how to take it to the next level because, if you are like me, perhaps you don't currently have that support network surrounding you, so we need to make it ourselves and believe in ourselves to get to the next stage of our potential.  So let's create our up-leveled tribe together and….
 
Design OUR Lives ~ Be Authentic.  Be You.  Be Sharp
 
I would love to hear from you in the comments.  Tell me about your tribe or the ones that you are looking to create.  Have any tips or stories to share?  Let's connect down in the comments or on the other socials.

Create Your Tribe

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Sources:  ​

• Subscribe to Lori Harder on YouTube ~ https://youtu.be/_-ffYPrNr1A
• Subscribe to Lori Harder on YouTube ~ https://youtu.be/ubItvXnP2bY​
• Subscribe to the Earn Your Happy Podcast ~ https://lnns.co/27VitM_bUjx
• Subscribe to Ted-Ed on YouTube ~ https://youtu.be/589tH-wtCak